Late last winter, I got an email from a local reader wondering if, because our cat Luna had died, we would be interested in taking their cat. Their family was moving out of the country for a couple years and they needed a home for their much-loved, seven-year-old cat named Obie.

I read the email through once, and then again, this time through squinty eyes. Our cat had just died because a car had hit it. Did they not catch that part of the we-are-down-a-cat post? A just-smashed-cat does not exactly scream This is a safe place for your kitty cat! Give it to us!

I decided that, under the circumstances, it was best to be clear. “I’m flattered that you’d offer us your beloved pet, especially after the one in our care got killed!” I wrote. “Here’s the deal: our animals are 100 percent outdoor animals (except for when the kids sneak them into the house), and we use our cats for mousers (and cuddles). If you are okay with Obie being an outside cat (he looks so sweet!), then we’d love to have him. But we also understand if you want him to be an inside animal.”

He still has his claws, she wrote back, and even though he’s always been an indoor cat, we’re fine with him being outside.

Which left me confused: were they okay with him dying? Because, to be frank, there was a high probability that might happen. This time when I replied, I did not mince words. “We’d love to have Obie. But I feel it my duty to be very upfront with you. Our cats have a 50-50 chance of living. We live right next to a road. They are outside cats and sometimes they run away. We had a great cat—Blackie—but he disappeared while we were in Guatemala. We like our animals and take good care of them and give them lots of cuddles, but we see them as animals, not semi-humans, which, to some people, makes us seem cold hearted. All that to say, we would LOVE to have Obie and we will do our best to love him up real good, but only as long as you are okay with the stats.”

She replied that my honesty was “refreshing,” and then, several months later, they delivered him to our house. So okay then.

Obie (short for Obama) was fat, sweet, and completely terrified. He cowered in his crate, and, when let out to roam, hid still as a mouse in the bushes. The second evening when I went outside to crate him for the night, he slipped under the deck where he had been hiding all day. He didn’t seem the wandering type, so I decided to leave him be.

The next morning he was gone. We searched high and low, walking the property, searching outbuildings (including the neighbors’), calling, calling, calling. Once I heard him meow and tore out of the house to search for him, but I couldn’t find him anywhere. Because I felt responsible, I contacted the owners (who hadn’t left the country just yet) to see if they wanted to come search—maybe he’ll respond to your voice?—but they were fine just letting him go. We prefer to imagine he’s “frolicking in the fields somewhere and eating mice,” they said. Which suited me just fine, so that was that.

Until a dark and stormy night (okay, so not “stormy” but it was pouring rain) (or maybe, in light of this tale, it’s more accurate to say “pouring cats and dogs?”) when, right before bed, my older son said he had seen a cat that looked like Obie out by the barn. The three younger kids raced out of the house, spied a pair of eyes in the back of the woodshed, and frantically dug him out. Incredulously, it was Obie. He was unbelievably skinny (we can circle his backbone with our fingers and touch them together) but bright-eyed, without a scratch on him, and as timid (and decidedly not outdoors savvy) as ever. Which leads me to wonder just exactly what he was doing for the last two months? Hibernating in a hole somewhere?

For the last week, Obie has been treated to the best of care: several meals a day, a crate inside a kennel (there’s no running away this time), and lots of snuggles. We’re hoping he sticks around.

This same time, years previous: kale tabbouleh with tomatoes and cucumbers, the quotidian (8.19.13), basic topping for fruit crisp, and two morals.

Once my son finished building the walls for my brother’s shed, he dismantled them, hauled them over to my brother’s house in the trailer, and reassembled them. Ever since then, he’s been working on the shed on location.

Evenings before bed, my husband will run over with him to check his work and discuss next steps. Usually my son only works for only several hours at a time (at which point he runs out of materials or needs advice), but the other day he spent the entire day roofing. When I went over to take some pictures, I was slightly surprised at how big the whole thing appeared to be, and how high up he was. But he looked like he was being a smart monkey—deliberate and focused—plus, he had a phone in his pocket in case of an emergency (that is, if he’s not unconscious and the phone isn’t smashed in the fall). There’s no way he’s going to learn how to do this stuff without actually doing it, I suppose, and now’s as good a time as any.

Now, I hear, he’s working on the door, plus my brother wants a little roof to extend out from the building, like a carport but for firewood. My son called up his mentor friend (who also happens to be an engineer) to figure out structural support-type stuff. Right now he’s in the middle of building shelves for the inside of the shed. Even though he’s getting paid a lump sum, we’re making him keep track of his hours so he can learn to measure money earned against time spent and supplies purchased. Hopefully, this will help him gain a realistic understanding of both the building process and his own abilities.

Bit by bit, the shed is taking shape and new skills are being acquired. Like many of the more involved and challenging projects we undertake—growing food, writing a book, raising children—much, if not most, of the satisfaction is in the process.

This same time, years previous: the quotidian (8.18.14), starfruit smoothie, garlicky spaghetti sauce, barley and beans with sausage and red wine, and thoughts on nursing.  

This same time, years previous: knowing my questions, easy French bread, from market to table, summer visitor, the beach, lately, our life, around the internets, kill a groundhog and put it in a quiche, washing machine worship and other miscellany, peach cornmeal cobbler and fresh peach ice cream, and drilling for sauce.