• the quotidian (1.30.12)

    Quotidian: daily, usual or customary;
    everyday; ordinary; commonplace

    *trying to take silhouettes: I still can’t figure it out
    *more card playing, with a cat centerpiece
    *the royalty, crafting their paper crowns
    *this week’s fort: a wind tunnel—all four kids, plus sleeping bags and cat, fit inside
    *after the neighbor lady stopped by with a bunch of old magazines
    *writing letters to city council members to request their support of the library
    *sucky oranges (that’s what we called them when I was growing up): cut the top off of a juice orange, stab it all over inside, and suck as much juice out as possible before tearing it open and eating out the innards
    *a fast lunch: leftover mashed potatoes + several beaten eggs = pancakes
    *muffin experimentation: not a winner (though I learned something, so it’s not all failure)
    *washing dishes: their assistance is no longer token
    *babysitting: notice how she attached the pacifier to her sweatshirt
    *bedtime stories: he reads the girls the mermaid books they crave, bless his heart
    *musical beds

    This same time, years previous: curried lentils, orange cranberry biscotti

  • Friday evening fun

    Last night I cried my eyes out while reading to the kids. We were nearing the end of our book, a story about a happy family with six rollicking kids. It was a safe story, I thought, cute and well-written.

    And then the little brother crashed his bike, severed his brain stem, and died.

    I cried for two and a half chapters. What I really wanted to do was to put the book down, go to my room, and bawl my eyes out. Instead, I persevered, voice tight, tears streaming down my face, nose running, long pauses, the works.

    My older daughter listened with her head pressed into my arm, her shoulders heaving. My younger daughter, curled up on the chair, cried with her hands over her face. My littlest kept whimpering, “I don’t want to read this book anymore, Mama.” And my oldest repeatedly offered to take over the reading. At one point he suggested we read something funny. “How about Matilda?”

    Losing one of my babies is my worst fear, my deepest heart pain. Just one thought of one of them not growing up is enough to make my eyes start watering. I can’t go there.

    But then I did. With no warning, I plunged right into a grief so profound I can’t even imagine it, and the breath was sucked right out of me. It was awful and ridiculous.

    I feel like I’d for sure shatter into a trillion little bits if one of my children died, but I know better. I would keep going. And so I plowed through the pages, reading about the uncle who told the oldest brother that there was nothing wrong with him for not crying. It’s like each of us has just been handed a steaming bowl of sorrow, the uncle said. Some of us start eating it right away, but others wait till it cools a bit before digging in. Either way, everyone has to eat what’s in their bowl.

    I read through to the very end, even though it was more than I normally read—there was no way I wanted to extend the agony.

    But even after the kids were in bed, I couldn’t shake the achy sad.

    It was a good book, though.

    This same time, years previous: Gretchen’s green chili, shoofly cake, my real name, gripping the pages, ode to the Titty Fairy

  • housekeeping

    In the spirit of full disclosure, I wasn’t making regular rice krispie treats. The ones I wrecked involved, along with rice krispies, marshmallows, and butter, potato chips and Rolos. They should have rocked my world, but alas, I didn’t have enough marshmallows so I cut back on other ingredients to balance everything out. But my guesses were sloppy and harried because I was in a frantic rush to eat rice krispie treats now. The treats ended up being so hard and dry that they rubbed the skin off of the roof of my mouth and three days later I’m still in pain.

    ***

    This warm weather is making me grumpy. It’s stupid to gripe about the weather because I can’t do anything about it, but it’s not supposed to be 60 degrees in January!

    When it’s winter, I want winter. I want cozy fires and snow and lots of hot chocolate and thick sweaters.

    Instead, my kids wear shorts and go outside in bare feet, and one evening we had strawberry daiquiris after the kids were in bed. It’s just wrong, plain wrong (though the daiquiris were good). It makes me feel like the end of the world is nigh, which is not a pleasant feeling to have.

    ***

    I must have a word with you about vacuuming and window washing. Perhaps it’s a confession, perhaps it’s a clarification, but:

    a. I vacuum multiple times each day. The other day I vacuumed four times, I think. (Also, I can never spell “vacuum” correctly.)

    Back when we were living in our small house in town, my husband and I argued constantly over sweeping the floor. I wanted it to be done every night—crunching on crumbs gives me the willies—and he thought I was obsessed and crazy. So, because neither of us had (has) learned the art of Giving In, we argued and fought until eventually, somehow, sweeping the floors became an evening ritual. It was beautiful thing.

    Then we moved to our new house and my husband insisted on installing central vac. I thought he was going overboard, spending all that money when a broom and dustpan worked just fine, but he’s the carpenter and so now we have central vac. And I love it. I just grab the hose off the hook in the hallway, push a button, and zip the pushy thing over my floors and, voila!, they’re clean. It’s addictive and simple and I vacuum all the time.

    Note: The upstairs gets a thorough vacuuming every other week, if we’re lucky.

    b. A reader (Hi, Margo!) noted my obsessive window washing.

    When we moved to this place, we—I mean, my husband—installed a lot of large, easy-to-open windows. Large, floor-to-ceiling windows let in lots of glorious light and attract sticky fingers, fly poop, and splatters (for those above the kitchen counters).

    So, I’ve taken to washing them with some regularity. The ones in the kitchen get washed about once a week. Clean windows brighten the house and my mood, and furthermore, window washing is an excellent task for belligerent children, of which I have four. Yay, me.

    Most days, I feel like my house is falling down around my ears. Clean floors and sparkling windows help me to pretend it’s not.

    What’s your cleaning obsession? (Notice I did not say, “Do you have…” I’m on to you, so ‘fess up.)

    This same time, years previous: flourless peanut butter chocolate chip cookies (look at that! I just made these, adding chunks of the ruined rice krispie treats to the batter), random thoughts