my Exceptionally Talented Therapist Friend:
1. What everyone needs is to be delighted in.
2. Each of your children has a specific emotional need that only you can meet. Remember, each child connects differently with each parent. Figure out what that emotional connecting point is for each of your children, and then refer back to it often—it will help you cut through all the extemporaneous crap and get to the core of what they really need.
I’m still mulling over those gems, and I think I will be for a very long time.