• A bout of snarky

    When a stranger is rude to me, I typically make a bazillion rude comments back…in my head. Then I stew for a bit and vent to a couple friends before pushing the episode aside and moving on with my life.

    This morning, however, someone was rude to me and my words didn’t stay inside my head. They came out.

    This is what happened:

    Upon entering a store, I went up to the counter to wait my turn. The only employee, a young man, was waiting on an elderly woman; there were no other customers. The lady had a large order but finally she finished, and Mr. Young Man walked out from behind the counter and over to the cash register to complete the sale.

    I waited patiently, wallet open, cash in hand.

    Just then another man walked in the store and quietly went over to the corner to look at dry goods. Mr. Young Man finished ringing the woman up, and as he stepped away from the cash register, he spied the newcomer. “Hey man!” he exclaimed. “I didn’t see you!”

    The men struck up a jovial conversation as I waited, patience dwindling. And then, to my growing dismay, I watched as Mr. Young Man walked back to his station behind the counter, passing directly in front of me as he went, and began to take his friend’s order!

    My startled confusion was soon replaced with heavy-duty fuming. I tried to keep the smoldering flames at bay by searching for some logical reason to justify such blatant rudeness. Perhaps the man was picking up a scheduled order. Or, Maybe he was in a serious rush. Or, Maybe his family was having a crisis and needed some extra special care and attention and the guy behind the counter knew that and I didn’t. Or, Maybe his wife threatened to smash him with a skillet if he didn’t make it back in five minutes flat.

    But no, the men moved leisurely, chatted about soup, joked and laughed. They both avoided making eye contact with me which is lucky for them because my eyes were shooting daggers that would’ve knocked them dead.

    Finally Chatty Friend With the Skillet Wielding Wife paid and left, and then, as there was no one else left in the store, Mr. Young Man had to deal with me. “Sorry about that, ma’am,” he said, all nonchalant and suave.

    “One pound of ground chuck,” I said through clenched teeth.

    He was cool as a cocky cucumber as he rang me up and bagged my order, but I was not cool. I was raging, my insides churning, my head pounding, smoke pouring from my ears. At the last minute, as I was stuffing the loose change into my wallet I decided I had to say something though I had no idea what. So I opened my mouth and this is what came out, “So, is it store policy to wait on people out of order?”

    “Aw, ma’am. I’m sorry about that. I didn’t see you,” he said, all puppy dog contrite-like.

    “Yes, you did,” I retorted.

    I looked at him, hard. “What’s your name?”

    “David,” he said, smile gone, eyes looking everywhere but at me. “I’m sorry, ma’am. I didn’t see you.”

    “No, that’s not true,” I said. I picked up my bag of chuck and headed for the door, and then, just for anyhow, I tossed over my shoulder, “I speak Spanish and I know exactly what was going on.” And out I swept.

    If there’s such a thing as buyers remorse, then there sure as heck is a thing as speakers remorse. I threatened the poor guy, for Pete’s sake! And in this bad economy, too! How could I have spit such venom, and at stranger, no less? I was flooded with shame.

    But then the memory of being purposefully ignored and lied to came rolling back and my chest swelled with pride over my store-policy jab.

    And so it went, pride and shame fighting for the upper hand the whole way home.

    Now, after much ponderation, I’ve come to the conclusion that it was fine to say what I did but I should not have left all mad like that. If I had just slowed down and gotten a grip on my emotions, I could’ve had a pleasant conversation with the fellow—a conversation complete with smiles and good will, and a bit of etiquette training thrown in for good measure. It might’ve gone something like this:

    Well, David, it’s nice to meet you. My name is Jennifer. [Benevolent smile] I love this store, David. I come here often, and one of the reasons is because Bob the Boss has such high standards. [Thoughtful pause, forefinger on chin] I don’t think he would appreciate the new method of customer service you’ve invented, do you? [Warm understanding smile] I’m sure you’re sorry, David, and I’d LOVE to forgive you, but I can’t because you have yet to apologize for what you did. However, [straightening up and slapping counter with palm] I’m fairly certain that this will never happen again, right? All right then, I’m off. [Gathering up bag of chuck and beaming one last gracious smile] You have a good day now, David. Cheerio!

    Imagined conversations aside, the next time I go in, I’m going to greet David by name and with a big friendly smile. (I’m big on smiles today.) Then, if I’m feeling bold, I’ll ask if he’s had any trouble keeping the store in ORDER as of late. And then, if I’m feeling really bold, I might even wink.

    This same time, years previous: Sweet pickles and Orange-Mint Tea

  • All things ‘reenie

    It’s nectarine season. Each year I’m blown away by how much I love the fruit. So sweet! So juicy! So perfect! (There I go again with my wild adjectives.)

    We dry most of the nectarines ‘cause I prefer dried ‘reenies to canned or frozen ‘reenies which tend to get mushier than I like, though they are still plenty good. So I leave the peaches for the jars and the nectarines for the dehydrator and it all works out in the end.


    This is what happens when you drink a glass of white wine while filling the dehydrator trays: a few chunks of fruit somehow end up splashing into the glass—shplink, shplank, shploosh. The glass drained, you’re left with the bits of wine-infused fruit. Mmm.


    One of Sweetsie’s morning jobs was to unload the trays.


    Nickel helped me reload the trays this morning. While doing so, he kept up a non-stop, happy chatter. It got so bad that I finally sat down at my desk to take notes. I could hardly keep up with the barrage of words that poured from his mouth:

    Good grief, Mom. I have to do all this stuff. I’m grumpy. Uhh… Whoa, my WORD. I’m almost to the end—whoa! I’m doing all this STUFF… The ones that fall on the table I can eat… Mom. I maked crossed over crossers. I’m doing crossed. Mom, look what I’m doing. Look what I’m doing else, Mom. Mom. MOM!

    The crossed over crossers.


    Yesterday I made a nectarine tart. It’s not at all pretty to look at, kind of drippy and crumbly, maybe even a little gross. But the taste—oh, my starry firmaments, the taste!—belongs in Seventh Heaven. The firm fruit softens and melts and the rich butter crust gets a heavy glazing from the tart-sweet syrup, turning it tacky like toffee. My crust must’ve had holes everywhere because the syrup oozed all over the bottom of the pan, glazing the top and bottom of the crust. It made it a bugger to serve, but it was so wow-good that I forgave it its shortcomings and began to scheme ways to get a two-sided glazed crust every time.


    Breakfast was oatmeal with brown sugar, chopped nectarines, and nectarine-blueberry-white chocolate muffins. I have plans to make a couple varieties of nectarine cobblers/grunts/crisps/buckles, and I also made this jam.


    Mr. Handsome took one taste and then burst forth with “Wow. That is GOOD.” His pleasure was so devoid of pretense it was almost embarrassing! My shock quickly changed to intense love and adoration. “Aw honey, you said the right thing!” I cooed, seizing the opportunity to increase the spirit of jammy good will and happiness.


    It’s just a couple nectarines blended up real good with a couple cups of red raspberries and then sweetened and thickened in the manner of most freezer jams. It reminds me of sour-sweet gummy candy but without any of the artificial chemical-ness. Gummy candy is my weakness; therefore, this jam is now my weakness.

    I’m giving you the recipe with the same proportions as the original even though my batch didn’t set up all the way. There could be a couple reasons for this minor hitch. It could be because my nectarines are humongo-large (though I don’t quite think they are). Or it could be because I didn’t strain out the seeds (I like seedy jam; is that weird?) choosing instead to give the fruits a prolonged, mighty blitz in the food processor.

    And really, when it comes down to it, a slightly runny jam isn’t the end of the world. I just think of it as a fruity honey.


    But even so, I’ll be tweaking the recipe, attempting to shape it up into perfect jelly-like submission. When I do, I’ll report back. Until then, here you go:

    Nectarine-Red Raspberry Freezer Jam
    Adapted from Cheri at Simple Bites

    Updated on August 12, 2010: Reporting back from the fruity front lines… I made it again, using two cups of chopped nectarine (which equaled two nectarines). The jam set up almost immediately and was quite thick. As a result, I think 2 ½ cups of chopped nectarines would be about perfect.

    2 or 3 nectarines, washed, pitted, and roughly chopped (about 2 ½ cups)
    2 cups red raspberries
    4 cups sugar
    ½ cup sure-jell (or 1 3/4-ounce box powdered fruit pectin)
    3/4 cup water

    Whiz the fruits for a full minute in the food processor.

    Measure the sugar into a bowl and stir in the fruit puree. Let it sit for 10 minutes, stirring periodically.

    Combine the sure-jell and water in a saucepan and bring it to a boil over high heat, whisking steadily. Hold it at a full boil for one minute, still whisking non-stop.

    Dump the sure-jell water into the fruit and stir for three minutes. Pour the jam into jars, lid, and label. Let them sit at room temperature for 24 hours before transferring to the freezer.

    Yield: 5-6 cups of jam

    This same time, years previous: peach canning, granola bars

  • Dishes at midnight

    Wednesday evening, smack-dab in the middle of our dinner hour, a storm blew up from the West.


    The clouds heading our way over the ridge were fearsome and no one, least of all me, could sit still with such a scene right outside the kitchen window. In between bites of our boiled potatoes with brown butter (for the kids) and tomato bread pudding (for the adults), peas and applesauce (for kids and adults), we kept running out on the deck to scan the horizon.


    The sky boiled and roiled.


    And roiled and boiled.


    And then the wind started. First we could just hear it as it came howling over the ridge. Then we could see the distant trees bend under the lashing.


    It roared louder. The kids whimpered. Tin lids and window screens (okay, so only one of each) flew.


    And then the power went out and the storm blew over.


    We finished our supper in dejected darkness and went to bed early. There’s really not that much to do in the country without power and water.

    I awoke at midnight, in the dark throes of a panic attack. My foggy brain was one-hundred percent certain that the tomato bread pudding was rotting on the kitchen table, that the cookies I had made for a pre-wedding dinner had gone stale and worthless beside the bread pudding, that the ice cream I had made earlier that day (for the fourth freakin’ time) was turning to peanut butter soup in the freezer, that the strawberries, peaches, and all other frozen produce was reduced to a drippy pile of thawed mush… And, oh dear. What about my morning coffee! I would have to load all the kids into the car and drive the eleven miles to town in search of my fix. But Mr. Handsome was supposed to take the car to the garage which meant that I would be stuck at home with five kids, a sink full of dirty dishes, piles of rotting, melting food, and a splitting, caffeine-withdrawal headache to boot! I simply couldn’t do it. My insides crumbled. I raised my head and flipped over, punching my pillow with my fist, whimpering and moaning—

    Wait. What was that? Could it be? A shaft of light was shining in through the doorway. I sat up and looked at the clock. It was blinking red numbers. I switched on my bedside light and yelped as my corneas retracted into my brain. Then I punched Mr. Handsome, “The power’s on, honey!” and bounced out of bed.

    And that’s how it came to be that Mr. Handsome and I did the dishes at midnight.

    P.S. All the food was perfectly fine. Don’t tell the food safety police.

    This same time, years previous: Quiche